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I hate it when someone uses the word “sick” as a positive adjective….as in “his new apartment is sick”. sick, in this case, means awesome/incredible/cool.
it’s like nails on the chalkboard, makes me cringe.
So many shows this fall…so little time.
One of my currently favorite artists will be in Chicago on October 20th. I have no idea when the tickets go on sale, soon…I hope.
Ten years ago, if you were to ask me to describe my dream man, you might be surprised (or not).
He would
Now, I would amend it and add “make me laugh”. I always thought that I a non-existed sense of humor. I was extremely sarcastic and never laughed at the regular jokes. When I met Andy, everything changed. Now, laughter and intelligence would tie in the list of importance.
“Can’t we be friends?” It’s an old refrain, ready-made for the one who wants out of a relationship to deliver to the one who doesn’t. Frank Sinatra gave it a permanent place in popular culture with the song “Can’t We Be Friends?” (“This is how the story ends / She’s gonna turn me down and say / Can’t we be just friends?”) Sinatra, who never backed away from melancholy (at least in his music), understood a thing or two about mourning.
And mourning is the theme that matters here. Trying to be friends immediately following a breakup tends to prevent the rejected partner (and maybe both partners) from mourning the death of romantic love — from accepting its finality by suffering it all the way through.
As painful as this can be, it ultimately performs an essential function. Behind the tears, mourning has silent work to do: It binds up the torn places where love was and gives them a chance to heal.
This is crucial because falling in love carries us beyond our customary limits of self-expression into territory that puts our sense of self at risk. Two people in love place much of themselves in each other’s hands for safekeeping; that kind of interdependence is why the loss of an intimate partner entails the depressing experience of being left behind with a diminished sense of your own existence.